Following on from ‘The Cycle’ post.
“You can’t extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.” – Charles Duhigg
According to the quote above, I cannot get rid of this habit, I can only change it.
I’ve been doing it for 17 out of 29 years of my life. What this means is I cannot change the triggers and urges. I will always sleep in a bed in a bedroom, changing the environment isn’t something that is practical.
What I can change is the routine.
This means finding another way to get to the reward. The reward is a relief from the lack of intimacy and achievement. I believe finding healthy sustainable solutions to gain the reward would change this habit.
There wouldn’t be any reason to succumb to watching explicit material if there is another solution that gives the same pleasure. This means trying out new ways to deal with triggers and urges, which then will lead to dealing with loneliness and success.